Happy New Year! With that statement, many people then ask: "So, what are your New Year's resolutions?" I used to diligently plan out what my resolutions should be. Should I lose some weight? Should I take out a new gym membership and get fitter? Should I cut out alcohol; stop eating unhealthy food; watch less TV; clean the house more regularly; sit less; cook more homemade meals; spend more time with my family... Oh my, the list goes on!
But this approach feels like a failure in the making. Its all about changing myself to be something different than I am now - the underlying message being that I am not good enough as I am. The moment the house looks a mess, or I've had a glass of wine then I have failed in that resolution. Might as well give up that one then.
So instead of such a negative approach this year I am thinking differently. I want to be happy. I want to be the happiest me that I can possible be. Now, this might include some of the list above. I will be more happy if I spend more time walking with my dog and doing fun things with my children. I will be more happy if cook a lovely healthy homemade dinner. But that doesn't mean I have failed if I go out for pizza and glass of wine! Quite the reverse! How much lovelier to reframe it and turn the whole thought around.
So this year, I don't have any resolutions as such. Just the continued goal to be the happiest me, to find the the best things, the best ways to make my life happy. And so I wish you the happiest possible 2018.